Does God Care What Two Consenting Adults Do Behind Closed Doors?


Yesterday, Pastor Sarah Omakwu of Family Worship Centre Abuja, found herself in the eye of a tweet -storm. Her twitter account had sent out a long series of numbered tweets dwelling on what she described as sexual perversions. As is however often the case when you try to teach what you consider to be biblical principles but are unable to quote a portion where it categorically states, “Thou shall not…”, she soon found herself in the middle of a raging controversy that forced her to later delete if not outrightly denounce the tweets.

Thankfully, I saw only about three of the tweets which numbered in the thirties, and so I can be excused from trying to provide any opinion on them. My concern is not about her tweets at all, but rather, a shift in attitudes to sexuality that I see creeping into the body of Christ.

As the world and our society has in recent years dwelled more on the whole subject of sexuality, I have noticed that believers have succumbed to a gradual desensitisation  to how God views sexuality. In trying to avoid being labelled prudish and intolerant, believers are increasingly remaining silent where they ought to be a voice for righteouness, and a light in deepening darkness.

Many of course have no real convictions, but many who believe different have also been cowed into silence in exchange for admittance into high society. In seeking the friendship of the world therefore, we are happy to risk the damnation of our neighbours, and court the enmity of God. (Know ye not that friendship of the world is enmity with God. James 4:4)

To pick on one of the new mantras of this age of tolerance, “what two consenting adults do behind closed doors is their business”. As with other new age philosophies, this idea sounds like common sense. I mean it stands to reason that the rest of society should indeed not be concerned with what is essentially the private business of two adults?

To the committed believer however, who is willing to do the bidding of his Lord who says, “Go and make disciples of all nations, teaching them to observe all I have commanded”, this idea is thinly veiled nonsense.

The believer is not called to merely be a passive observer of society, who upsets no one. he is called to be salt (that prevents spoilage) of the earth, to be light (keeping men from stumbling) in the world. Undoubtedly, it is the nature of salt and light to sting; to upset.

To hear the Apostle Paul…

Him we preach and proclaim, warning and admonishing everyone and instructing everyone in all wisdom (comprehensive insight into the ways and purposes of God), that we may present every person mature (full-grown, fully initiated, complete, and perfect) in Christ (the Anointed One). Colossians 1:28 AMP

In reality, the question is not whether we should be concerned about the personal choices that people express in private, it is whether God is concerned by those choices. For if he is, then we must be, because…

So we are Christ’s ambassadors, God making His appeal as it were through us. We as Christ’s personal representatives beg you for His sake to lay hold of the divine favor now offered you and be reconciled to God. (2 Corinthians 5:20 AMP)


So is God concerned about what happens behind closed doors? But of course. Indeed there is no such thing as a door (closed or open) where God is concerned. For as his Word says… “And not a creature exists that is concealed from His sight, but all things are open and exposed, naked and defenseless to the eyes of Him with Whom we have to do” (Hebrews 4:13 AMP).

Importantly, for the believer, it is not merely a matter of God seeing us commit sin, it is that the sexual sin is peculiar in the fact that it defiles the very dwelling of God. This is why He says…

Shun immorality and all sexual looseness flee from impurity in thought, word, or deed. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. [19] Do you not know that your body is the temple (the very sanctuary) of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, Whom you have received as a Gift from God? You are not your own, [20] You were bought with a price purchased with a preciousness and paid for, made His own. So then, honor God and bring glory to Him in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 AMP

So as ambassadors of a God who evidently cares about our sexuality, we are constrained by our love, and duty to God and our neighbours to speak as necessary. Ironically, we may even learn from the ambassadors of certain western  nations that have made sexual identity a core component of their diplomatic agenda: do they not show us that as ambassadors, we must push the agenda of our kingdom?

God does not prevaricate nor leave room for ambiguous interpretations when he says …

Do you not know that the unrighteous and the wrongdoers will not inherit or have any share in the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived (misled): neither the impure and immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor those who participate in homosexuality, [10] Nor cheats (swindlers and thieves), nor greedy graspers, nor drunkards, nor foulmouthed revilers and slanderers, nor extortioners and robbers will inherit or have any share in the kingdom of God. (1 Corinthians 6:9-10 AMP)

And walk in love, esteeming and delighting in one another as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us, a slain offering and sacrifice to God for you, so that it became a sweet fragrance. [3] But immorality (sexual vice) and all impurity of lustful, rich, wasteful living or greediness must not even be named among you, as is fitting and proper among saints (God’s consecrated people). [4] Let there be no filthiness (obscenity, indecency) nor foolish and sinful (silly and corrupt) talk, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting or becoming; but instead voice your thankfulness to God. [5] For be sure of this: that no person practicing sexual vice or impurity in thought or in life, or one who is covetous who has lustful desire for the property of others and is greedy for gain–for he in effect is an idolater–has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. [6] Let no one delude and deceive you with empty excuses and groundless arguments for these sins, for through these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of rebellion and disobedience. [7] So do not associate or be sharers with them. (Ephesians 5:2-7 AMP)

Note however that in these two portions, we are warned of being deceived. This deception I daresay is now in full bloom; men, believers alike have bought the lie that doors can shut out God, his word, and consequences.


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